My daughter, 7, came home crying.
The teacher told her, “Your dad must regret having you!” I was furious.
I went to confront this woman.
She looked at me calmly and asked, “Have you even checked your daughter’s bag?”
I froze when she showed me a crumpled note.
It was written in my handwriting. Sloppy, rushed. But no doubt it was mine.
“Some days I wish I never had her. I can’t do this anymore.”
I felt like the air had been punched out of me.
The teacher didn’t yell. She didn’t judge. She just said, “I thought you should know this was in her lunchbox today. She read it to the class.”
I couldn’t speak. My mouth went dry. I had no memory of writing it—but as I stood there, a dull throb started in my chest, like guilt rising up from somewhere I’d pushed it deep down.
The teacher’s voice softened. “Kids pick up more than we think.”
The note… I had written that weeks ago during a breakdown. After working double shifts, trying to juggle bills, my car breaking down, and hearing that my ex-wife might be moving states with her new boyfriend. I had been exhausted, angry, and alone.
I scribbled that on the back of an envelope one night after putting Maren—my daughter—to bed. I never meant for anyone to read it. Especially not her.
But I remembered now. That same envelope had been on the kitchen counter. She must’ve grabbed it by mistake while packing her lunch. Her little fingers always eager to help.
I went home that evening and watched her sleeping—arms thrown out like a starfish, her favorite stuffed rabbit curled under her chin.
That note… those awful words… they didn’t reflect how I truly felt. Not even close.
I love that girl more than anything. But I hadn’t been showing it. Not lately.
The next morning, I asked the school for a meeting—with Maren, the teacher (Mrs. Linton), and the school counselor.
Maren was quiet, looking down at her shoes. I knelt beside her.
“I’m sorry,” I said. “That note wasn’t meant for you. I wrote it when I was really sad, and tired, and confused. But it wasn’t about you, baby. It was about me struggling to be the dad you deserve.”
She looked up at me, eyes glossy. “Do you really wish you didn’t have me?”
That’s when I broke. Right there in that tiny elementary school office, in front of strangers.
“No. Never. Not for one second. You’re the best thing in my whole life. I just… forgot how to take care of myself. But I’m going to fix that. For you. For us.”
It took more than words to fix things.
I started therapy. I took a temporary leave from my second job to get a grip on my stress. I even let my pride go and reached out to my sister for help with after-school pickups. She was more than happy to step in.
And Maren… she began drawing again. Singing again. She started leaving me notes in my lunch like:
“You got this, Dad!” “I love you even if your socks don’t match.” “Don’t be sad today, okay?”
I keep those notes in my wallet now.
One day a few weeks later, I picked her up from school and Mrs. Linton stopped me.
“She told the class today that her dad is her hero,” she said. “She even made a card about it.”
The card was a crooked little drawing of me with a cape, holding her hand. Underneath she’d written:
“My dad makes mistakes. But he always tries again.”
Life isn’t perfect now.
Some days, we still run late. I burn dinner. The dog pees on the rug.
But I don’t feel broken anymore. I feel… human. And loved.
And if there’s one thing I’ve learned—it’s that our kids don’t need us to be flawless. They just need us to be honest, present, and willing to keep trying.
Even when it’s messy. Especially when it’s messy.
So if you’re a parent who’s overwhelmed… please hear this:
You’re not alone. And it’s okay to ask for help. Your child doesn’t need a perfect version of you—they need you, just trying your best.
